The Resignation - Leaving Your Job The Right Way
24 May 2016
It is natural to have mixed feelings when you are about to hand in your notice.
- It is probably true to say that your present company has helped you develop and progress. You might feel guilty about leaving them because of this.
- You will be leaving colleagues and this is never easy. You may even see some of them outside of work as social friends.
- You will be nervous about handing in your notice. How will they react? Will they be angry? Will I be made to feel embarrassed?
These fears – which are completely normal – are only part of the picture.
Put yourself in your boss's position. What would you do? Could there be a counter-offer situation?
Primarily, your boss will pitch the counter-offer as an opportunity to avoid change and disruption. Through their language, they will suggest that it is easier for you to stay where you are, and that your acceptance of a new job is a mistake.
They could say some – or all – of the following:
- "This is confidential and I shouldn't really be telling you this, but we were looking at promoting you in the next six months."
- "We will match your new offer and put it into effect next pay day. I had meant to review it anyway."
- "Don't make a decision now, have a think about it and we'll sit down next week and discuss it."
- “I’ve heard of that company. They have a really bad reputation.”
Of course, it is flattering that your company is concerned to hear that you are leaving. Your emotions about this may obscure the reasons behind your decision to hand in your notice in the first place. They will expose that one final nagging doubt. it will grow out of proportion the more your boss tries to convince you.
Don’t let the decision be made by someone else. Take them out of the picture. And think about the following:
- "I made the decision to leave because I felt a new position offered me the best environment to fulfil my career needs. If I stay, will the situation here really improve just because I said I was leaving?"
- "If I stay, will my loyalty be suspect and affect my chance for advancement once the dust has settled?"
- "This salary increase makes me expensive for the job position I'm in. How will that affect any future increases?"
- "I got this counter-offer because I resigned - will I have to do that the next time I think I'm ready for a raise or promotion?"
It is really important to remember that any counter-offer is late recognition of the contribution you have made to your company. My advice? Don’t let it change your mind.
Written By Billy McDiarmid